|Suicide will not end our life because we live on.|
This is one of the beliefs that even those who seemingly have everything - wealth, family, even popularity - want to take their life.
Yet this very assumption, as we'll discuss, will not provide a solution to our problems. Suicide, in fact only makes things worse for us. Because we will still exist even if we purposely kill our body.
For those looking for answers, here are a few.
Climbing suicide ratesThere has been an increase in suicides around the world, especially in First world countries. For example in the United States, suicides climbed by 24 percent between 1999 and 2014 according to the Centers for Disease Control.
For some age groups, the increase was even higher. Suicides among girls between 10 and 14 surged by 200 percent during this period. And suicides among adults between 45 and 64 spiked by 63 percent.
The numbers are also shocking. In 1999, over 29,000 people committed suicide. In 2014, nearly 43,000 people committed suicide in just the United States.
What makes a person want to commit suicide?The main issue that drives a person to commit suicide is hopelessness. The person feels their life will never bring them happiness. This could be related to any number of events or situations that occur, but the bottom line is the person feels there is no possibility of achieving happiness within this world.
And they are mostly right. There is little happiness within the material world. The material world is not a place where happiness reigns. Just look around. Violence, bullying, hostility, competition, lying, cheating, self-centeredness. No one seems to be happy here.
This is because of emptiness. Practically everyone is seeking something else - something more. Even those who have so much wealth, or so many possessions, or a large family or a good job are not satisfied with what we have. As a result, we are not satisfied with our current situation. We want more - or at least something different.
Most of us can logically look around and see so many of the most wealthy, most famous and 'successful' people in the world are still not happy. We see so many of these 'successful' people drugging themselves, or drinking themselves into oblivion. Or we see them committing suicide, despite the supposed success and their supposed adoring fans.
So it is easy to conclude that wealth and material fame do not bring happiness.
But what about family?But many will undoubtedly interrupt and say, but what about family? Family brings happiness, right?
If it did, then everyone in the physical world would be happy. Every person is born into the physical world from a mother and father. So practically everyone at least starts off with some sort of family. Even if their family abandoned them or their mother died during childbirth, there is typically still some sort of family available. That can include aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, cousins - some family member or other.
And in the rare case where a person has no family member at all in the physical world - there are still many types of adoptive families - including memberships in clubs or other social groups.
In one way or another, everyone is a member of some type of family. Yet there is still so much loneliness in the physical world. There is so much emptiness in the physical world despite the presence of family. And there are still so many suicides - even by those who are surrounded by a close family.
Therefore, it is only logical to conclude that family does not make a person happy. Otherwise, practically everyone in the world would be happy.
Many conclude that it is not having family, but it is having a close, caring family that brings happiness. And the proposal is that having a close, caring family will prevent any suicides.
But this simply is not so. There are millions of examples of teens committing suicide despite living at home with a close, caring family. So it is not the presence of a close, caring family that can prevent someone from concluding that there is no possibility of becoming happy in this world.
A problem of misidentificationAt the heart of the issue relating to suicide is the identification of the self as the physical body. If a person identifies themselves as only the physical body, then happiness can only be found within the realm of the physical.
In other words, identifying with the physical body means that making the body satisfied is the only way to become happy.
Yet so many who commit suicide have all the ingredients to make the body satisfied. They have access to tasty, nutritious food. They have access to sex. They have access to popularity. They have access to all the creature comforts. Yet none of these or the combination thereof bring real happiness. Otherwise, they wouldn't commit suicide.
They commit suicide because they are convinced the material world will never bring them happiness.
The point is, it is the ignorance of our real identity that brings a person to become hopeless. By thinking we are only a physical body, and the fact that we already enjoy all the perks of the material world, we can become convinced that this is all there is.
This sentiment is mirrored by the 1969 song sung by Peggy Lee. The chorus goes like this:
"Is that all there isThose who commit suicide feel like this, except they don't conclude to keep dancing or break out the booze. They have likely already tried that and that didn't make them happy either. So they conclude there is no reason to live. They decide to in effect stop dancing and kill their body.
Is that all there is
If that's all there is, my friends
Then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is"
But this is not all there isThe reality is, there is more to life than what exists within the material world. The world of the physical body is only a very small segment of the entire creation.
And as we've proven in this website, we are not these physical bodies. The physical body is merely a shell that we put on in order to traverse this particular environment. The physical body will only last for a few decades - at the most 100 years or so. Then it will die. And like an old car, we will leave it behind.
But we will not die when the body dies. Each of us existed before this body was born and will continue to exist long after this body has died.
Our physical body is temporary. And each of us is eternal. That is the conclusion of all the ancient teachers including Jesus.
Once we realize that we are not the physical body, a new realm opens up to us. That is the realm of the eternal. The realm that belongs to each of us as spiritual entities.
Yes, we are speaking of the spiritual realm. This realm is beyond the scope of the physical body, the physical senses, and the physical mind. It is a place that houses the eternal spiritual person who temporarily dwells within a temporary physical body.
Suicide will not end itMany people who commit suicide look around them at the hopelessness of the physical world and all the hatred and selfishness and just want to end it.
The problem is, suicide will not end it. We will still be left with our consciousness. We will continue to exist, but we be left with the reality that we left this world without accomplishing what we came here to learn. And everything that made us feel hopeless - our consciousness - will remain.
This is not speculation. This is the scientific conclusion of many medical experts who have examined people following clinical death experiences. Millions of people have died and have returned to life, only to report that they met with those 'on the other side' who concluded that their time is not up and they still have more to learn.
It is the scientific conclusion of many medical experts who have regressed patients into the spirit world after the death of their last body. They conclude from their research that there is an in-between spirit world where there are guides and councils. These help us determine our next life in the physical world and determine precisely what lessons we will be learning in our physical incarnation. (See Dr. Brian Weiss's books, for example.)
These studies and others show that suicide only results in a person feeling - after the suicide - that they short-circuited their intended learning within this lifetime. This results in serious feelings of regret after ending this lifetime prematurely.
A world of learningOur tenure within the physical world and this physical body is related to learning. We are here to learn. We are here to learn about ourselves and learn how to love.
We are also here to be challenged. Whatever our weaknesses of consciousness might be, the people around us and the situations that are presented to us all present us with various challenges.
When we bear through and meet these challenges we become better persons. Our consciousness becomes more aware and more caring. Even when we experience hardship.
When we experience hardships in life we are facing challenges to our very nature. How do we deal with the hardship? Do we melt? Or do we stand up to it and persevere?
Either way, we are learning. Even if we melt before challenges, we learn our limitations, which expands our humility. But for those challenges that we persevere, our understanding grows.
There are also lessons for a person facing a difficult situation who feels tempted to commit suicide. Just persevering through the hardship will lead to a growth of our consciousness.
Yes, the hardships and challenges we face in this lifetime might feel tough - but they are temporary. They will not last. Everything in the physical world is temporary, except the conscious souls who occupy these bodies.
But our learning experiences will last. The learning experiences we come away with will last us through eternity. This is why we want to fight it out until it is our rightful time to leave the physical body at last.